It Wasn't Supposed to Be This Way
It wasn’t supposed to be this way. This line has been
running through my head all week. It wasn’t supposed to be this way. I’m the
one with stage four cancer. I “took one for the team” - got cancer and, subsequently,
uncovered the fact that our family carries the BRCA2 genetic mutation and is at
much higher risk for certain cancers. I got cancer so that my brother and
sister, who both carry the mutation, didn’t have to. I liked to think that I helped
them stay cancer-free due to awareness of their risk, close monitoring, and
preventative surgery. That’s what a big sister does – she leads the way, breaks
in the parents, and watches out for her little brother and sister.
But danger was lurking somewhere else. When we found out I
had the BRCA2 mutation, we knew it must have come from one of my parents. Turns out it
was my dad. BRCA mutations aren’t as dangerous for men, although they do
elevate the risk of certain cancers; it’s just not as much as in women. So him
getting cancer wasn’t on my radar at all. A family shouldn’t have to deal with
more than one member diagnosed with a terminal disease anyway.
And yet - on Thursday, we found out that my dad has stage
four cancer in his lung. It wasn’t supposed to be this way. I was going to be
the one to die first. There was, at least, that one mercy from being diagnosed
with terminal cancer – I wouldn’t have to see my family get old and die. With
Beth March, I would be “the one going ahead.” And I still may be. But I am stable,
and my dad’s situation doesn’t look good.
He is currently in the hospital, recovering from the
exploratory surgery that found the cancer and attempted to stop the fluid
building up in his lung, at least for a while. We anxiously await the pathology
results that will tell us the type of cancer and what the treatment options
could be. It wasn’t supposed to be this way.
And that is what God says every time He sees suffering in
this world: “It wasn’t supposed to be this way. This isn’t how I created the
world to be. This isn’t what I want for my children.” He grieves when we grieve,
and He hates death even more than we do. So He sent His Son, the physical
incarnation of God that we celebrate this time of year. He was sent to earth to
live and die and defeat the power of death. Death is swallowed up in victory!
And so we may walk through “the valley of the shadow of death,” but this death is
just a shadow; it can’t kill us forever, for we will be raised with Him. We do
not grieve as those who have no hope. And yet, we grieve. Will you pray for us?
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